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How often is it that we have these desires to get together with our girls those who know us like no one else does. Those that knew us before kids. But we are exhausted just trying to decide what is for dinner and the idea of trying to navigate all the details of even a girls night out can seem like the world's tallest mountain. Especially in the little years. Maybe when they are older it will get easier.....

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Decision fatigue is real, especially in the little years! But that rare time away with friends, oh so sweet and necessary.💕

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What I know is that’s it’s worth the effort! Thanks for reading!

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I can definitely relate to not being where I thought I would be. Seems to be the story of my life at the moment. Thanks for these words. I need to be living each day as they come.

On a planner note (hi, it's me, I love planning!)... what about Charlottesville, VA? In college, a group of interns and I drove from DC to Charlottesville for a college football game, and I remember it being a really cute town. (Granted this was almost 20 years ago, so my memory is fuzzy.) Years later, I went back and visited Dave Matthew's vineyard, because, well, I was in a phase of DMB obsession. Vineyards and in bed by 9 (maybe 8:30?) sounds amazing. Happy planning! ;)

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I love this idea! (Friends are up north but maybe they’ll drive if I plan 😂)

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Can you plan all of my vacations for me? 🤣😅 For being a major planner myself I am shockingly overwhelmed by trip planning.

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Where do you want to go? Idaho? 🤣

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Thank you, Sonya--loved and appreciated your words so much. <3

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Thank you!!

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"chronologically mature, but chronically behind"-- thank you for putting this feeling i've had into such a succinct and elegant phrase!

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Thanks for reading, Jen.

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“And maybe feeling on top of it all isn’t actually the goal.” 🤯🔥💛

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We all need that written on a post it somewhere to be reminded again and again.

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Henceforth I shall call this decade my Quattro era™️. I feel the same way about starting again, again in my birthday month of April. Thanks for this Sonya.

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Thanks for reading!

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Ok Rachel - message me in April w a reminder that I can start again okay?? 😘

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Loved this essay! So relatable. I’m turning...quattro this month, and my mom & sister & I are going to New Paltz NY for the weekend to celebrate. There’s Mohonk Mountain House if you want to splurge or Hampton Inn if you want to save, and B&Bs in between. Vineyards, Lake Minnewaska (beautiful & has some very pretty, super-easy “hikes”), cute college town w/ good restaurants & smaller spas to get facials/massages. Haven’t been yet (though I did get engaged there), but sharing in case my hours of research can help you! I also 100% haaate researching trips online so I feel this 😂

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Great idea!! Thank you!

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I am so thankful you are showing up however, wherever you are, Sonya. Love you and your words, always.

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Oh I think the title of this post could be the title of my life right now! Coincidentally (or not) I’m turning Quattro cinco this year too. 👯‍♀️ Love what you wrote here! And thanks for the shoutout to my substack too!

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we're big fans of yours Joy!

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@Sonya - The Avista in North Myrtle Beach, SC would be a wonderful option for your trip!

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