Relatable, thank you for your vulnerability! Makes me think of this morning when I was so tempted to go down my familiar thought process of impatience and resentment when my husband was slow to wake up and trade shifts with our toddler. I took many deep breaths and prayed to not assume the worst, to seek his best, to be patient and filled with grace, not expecting others to revolve around my exact idea of how things are "supposed" to go. In the moment, it can feel like every second of inaction from him is a very deliberate and targeted action against me, but I have to remember his brain is not wired that way in the least, his intentions are love. In these moments, I need to remember the dishes he selflessly did late last night without prompting, the way he leads our family in faith, how present he is with our daughter, how he listens to me and supports me, how much he makes me laugh every day! We truly are a team, and I can't treat marriage like a competition with winners and losers - because that equation always makes me feel like I'm ahead when really I'm the one losing. I'm happy to report that this morning was a victory! I wish the same for you and the many moments that will test you in the future <3 Sincerely, a fellow wife and mama
This is so good, Molly. I relate to all of it. But also, why did Jake put the doorbell on the backdoor? Inquiring minds need to know. I was waiting to hear some Jake-ism (which I assume is actually a loving/sweet gesture or something funny) about why he put it there.
so relatable! i’ve been asking myself a similar question in this past week. also the doorbell story had me cracking up because i would feel the same way. it truly sounds like something my husband would do that i would them fume about 🙈 thanks for helping me feel seen, even in my flailing. blessings on you and your marriage 🤍
Sitting here in the quiet house while my husband takes our children out to breakfast solo. And had started thinking of all the things he will do differently than if I were there. And then conviction while reading this. He is taking his children out to spend time with them to love them and me as I needed to get somethings done this morning. Blessings to him and his doing things his way. My kids will talk about this day for months. It fills there tanks to overflowing and isn't that all that matters.
Amen… I can feel that way about my parents who watch our daughter a day or two every week. We have very different styles and it’s hard for me to not have control in those moments. But she absolutely adores her papa and mama and she is the center of their world so I have to trust they will take care of her just fine! Thanks for sharing 😊
Relatable, thank you for your vulnerability! Makes me think of this morning when I was so tempted to go down my familiar thought process of impatience and resentment when my husband was slow to wake up and trade shifts with our toddler. I took many deep breaths and prayed to not assume the worst, to seek his best, to be patient and filled with grace, not expecting others to revolve around my exact idea of how things are "supposed" to go. In the moment, it can feel like every second of inaction from him is a very deliberate and targeted action against me, but I have to remember his brain is not wired that way in the least, his intentions are love. In these moments, I need to remember the dishes he selflessly did late last night without prompting, the way he leads our family in faith, how present he is with our daughter, how he listens to me and supports me, how much he makes me laugh every day! We truly are a team, and I can't treat marriage like a competition with winners and losers - because that equation always makes me feel like I'm ahead when really I'm the one losing. I'm happy to report that this morning was a victory! I wish the same for you and the many moments that will test you in the future <3 Sincerely, a fellow wife and mama
That's beautiful, Meagan. Thank you for reading and also sharing your story with us.
this is such good insight, meagan 💜 i’m gonna come back later and read it again to soak it in more.
Wow I’m so glad ☺️ I never realized how impatient I was till I got married 😂
"that equation always makes me feel like I'm ahead when really I'm the one losing." So true, Meagan. Thank you so much for sharing this!
Love. This is beautiful, and I feel SO similarly. Where did 19 year old me go? Working on better tuning myself to grace right along with you, friend.
Thank you, Krista! <3
Grace upon grace upon grace.❤️
This is so good, Molly. I relate to all of it. But also, why did Jake put the doorbell on the backdoor? Inquiring minds need to know. I was waiting to hear some Jake-ism (which I assume is actually a loving/sweet gesture or something funny) about why he put it there.
I felt like I need to hear more about this back door doorbell, too 😜
There's no real reason except that he came in the back door instead of the front. Proximity. haha
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so relatable! i’ve been asking myself a similar question in this past week. also the doorbell story had me cracking up because i would feel the same way. it truly sounds like something my husband would do that i would them fume about 🙈 thanks for helping me feel seen, even in my flailing. blessings on you and your marriage 🤍
Blessings on your marriage, Francine. Thank you for reading.
Thank you for this, Francine. Always happy to know I'm not alone! :)
I just loved this Molly. LOVED it. I love how you ended it with a question.
thank you, Sonya! this means a lot! :)
Brilliant, my friend 💛
💛💛thank you!!
Love this so much, Molly!
Thank you so much, Becky.
❤️❤️❤️ love how this one turned out, friend.
Thanks for helping it get here!
Sitting here in the quiet house while my husband takes our children out to breakfast solo. And had started thinking of all the things he will do differently than if I were there. And then conviction while reading this. He is taking his children out to spend time with them to love them and me as I needed to get somethings done this morning. Blessings to him and his doing things his way. My kids will talk about this day for months. It fills there tanks to overflowing and isn't that all that matters.
I love this. It's such a small shift and it always makes such a big difference.
Amen… I can feel that way about my parents who watch our daughter a day or two every week. We have very different styles and it’s hard for me to not have control in those moments. But she absolutely adores her papa and mama and she is the center of their world so I have to trust they will take care of her just fine! Thanks for sharing 😊
I love this! It is such a great reminder to me to love and respect my husband and give grace while also serving with love. Thanks!
So glad to know it resonated! <3
Beautiful. Loved catching glimpses of who you are - 19-year old self and the wise woman you have become.
This is so kind, Lauren. Thank you💛